Greedy Girl – A Review By Jenna-G

The Fifty Shades of Grey range of love toys is 100% fully approved by E.L. James, who in case you didn’t know is the author of the hugely popular series. There are a couple of collections under the FSoG umbrella, for example there is the very aptly named ‘Official Pleasure Collection’, the popular ‘Weekend Collection’, the Fifty Shades of Grey ‘Essentials’.


Every toy in the range is presented in a black and grey box, tastefully designed with the mask of the original book as its logo; each has the reassurance that every piece has been approved by E.L. James.


The Greedy Girl is a rabbit vibrator that deserves its name; sturdy, strong, well-built from beautifully soft silicone.  The base is made from a nice solid chunk of plastic, from here you control the 2 motors on the shaft and rabbit, and it is where the rechargeable wire slots into (yes, this beauty is rechargeable). This base feels much ‘anchored’ it’s certainly not going to be knocked down easily on the bedside table, this is no light toy, it’s packed with power and it means business.


The toy itself is one sleek bit of silicone, the shaft coming around and forming the rabbit at the front. The shaft is tapered slightly toward the base, thinner in the middle and has a bulbous tip to stimulate the G-spot, the rabbit’s ears are intense, and they get into their positions just perfectly around the clit. From the first touch you know this is promising to be quite a wonderful experience, the fact it is completely waterproof is just the icing on the cake.

As mentioned above, there are two motors powering this beast; one in the shaft and one in the rabbit, they have three speeds apiece which may, to some, sound stingy but remember: there are TWO motors, the combinations (36 of them!) alone make for some very surprising results from the pair, add to that the nine various patterns the shaft provides and the results are fantastic, there’s not one combination I’ve found that didn’t blow me away, quite frankly. They provide the kind of stimulation that sends us into leg-shaking orgasms. The power settings are really easy to control at the base – just two buttons control the shaft and rabbit, as usual, hold one of the buttons down to turn the whole thing on or off.


Two motors does not mean more noise though, this is super-quiet.

It feels very powerful, I know I keep saying it – it’s true!

Before some may get scared off I have to reassure that I’ve very sensitive ‘lady parts’ and this wasn’t too much or too hard like some powerful toys have been on me. Some toys I find the vibes may be too powerful, the material too hard – reminding me of some kind of jackhammer on the lady-garden which leads to not being able to relax and fearing of walking like John Wayne with a clit circled in rosy bruises – I’m too squeamish for that! However the material used make it feel so sensual, gentle but firm – like your man pounding you hard and fast, you cum fast and it’s good and heated and boom you’re all done and you’re like “omg wtf just happened?!” hypnotised by that throbbing of tail-end of orgasm radiating from your groin that refuses to die away… and he’s still going and it’s coming back and it’s so intense you feel you’ll burst with it all…. No, you’re not going to get half-arsed orgasms with this, it’s going to blow your socks off, over and over again if you let it. Orgasmically good, just like that hard fast fuck, it just all feels so ‘right’😉


I would definitely recommend full stop. The price? While some may find it a bit expensive I think its an absolute bargain for on-demand, intense, orgasms. I am overjoyed with mine, a firm favourite!   Want to know more? Check it out (along with other reviews) on the website by clicking – HERE!

with love 2016

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Hugo by Lelo – A Review by Jamesey

Is it possible to love a sex toy?  I can’t even pretend I’m asking for a friend, because I honestly think I’ve fallen head over heels for the Hugo.  I want us to have a winter wedding and live in a little log cabin somewhere. I’m not sure how my husband will feel about it, but really the love between Hugo and me transcends what society will think of us.


The packaging for Hugo is pretty straight forward, a sturdy black box with a window for you to see toy through. It’s sitting in on a satin material with the controller just beneath.  It’s quite non-descript and while it might not be the most original packaging, it shows him off proudly and as standard with a Lelo toy, it’s eye catching when it’s on the shelf.  Inside the box is the instruction manual, the USB charging wire, a satin bag to keep the toy in between uses and a sachet of the Lelo waterbased lube.

Upon getting Hugo home, I opened the box and when I picked up the toy I was amazed at how smooth it felt. Lelo have used a really high quality silicone material for the toy and honestly this makes such a difference. Within minutes of opening the box you can begin to understand why the Hugo is on the higher tier of pricing. As standard with any rechargeable toy, I popped him on charge for 2 hours. (I distracted myself with season 6 of Gilmore Girls this time.) When he was fully charged I made sure and check the batteries in the SenseMotion controller and we were good to go!


Hugo isn’t a massive toy, he’s actually quite small in comparison to some of the other prostate massagers on the market, but as I’ve told a few of my ex’s – it’s not the size that matters. With two separate motors (one in the prostate part and one in the base that sits on the perineum) Hugo goes to show that size really isn’t everything as these motors are STRONG! I was initially worried that with two motors it might sound like a pneumatic drill when I turned him on, but it’s actually very quiet.

There are 8 different modes and a very handy controller which sits really well in your hand for solo play or your partner’s hand if you’re playing together. However you can also use a button at the base to cycle through the modes yourself, which on your own isn’t actually that easy to reach, but you can easily over -look this.

Now, the main question – is it any good?

Within about five minutes of Hugo turning on to my poor husband thought that I was actually re-enacting the head spinning scene from The Exorcist. He wasn’t sure if I was really enjoying myself or had been taken over by a demonic entity due to the noises coming out of me. I’ve used prostate toys in the past that have been good, but Hugo was beyond good. In the first play I never actually made it past setting three. I can, hand on heart say that Hugo has given me my first ever prostate orgasm.


Not actually me….

The Hugo is 100% waterproof, I’ve not used him in the bath yet (namely because I’m worried I’ll drown) but it is definitely on the to-do list. Since getting this toy, I’ve not looked at any of the other toys I’ve got, Hugo has become my all time favourite toy I own at the moment and I really do think it’s going to take something very special to take the crown away from him.

So to recap –

  1. Hugo has ultra-powerful vibrations across 2 separate motors, one in the base and one in the tip.
  2. There are 8 different settings and a wireless controller that has a range of up to 12 meters.
  3. 100% Waterproof
  4. USB Rechargeable
  5. Comes with a 1 year warranty and a 10 year pleasure guarantee.


The Hugo is an expensive toy, but when a toy is THIS good, it is more than worth the money. Honestly guys, treat yourself. Your prostate will thank you.

with love 2016

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Callie By JOpen – A Review by Jenna-G

We have a new toy reviewer here on the Nice ‘n’ Naughty blog! Can you all give a warm welcome to Jenna-G! Jenna has written a glowing review for the new range of toys from Jopen, the beautiful Callie range. Carry on reading for Jenna-G’s review…..

Jopen is a brand you can rely on for top quality, well made products, their newest offering, Callie, a vibrating wand, is no different. The packaging emphasises this point, a simple yet classy white and gold box, it has a sophisticated and elegant feel to it. The front of the box has a window to see the toy through and opens as a magnetic door, the toy itself lying on a black background next to a USB charging cable.The reverse of the box details all you need to know about the toy itself, being both informative yet subtle.


My other half said he thought it looked like a perfume box, so you could definitely say it’s ‘gifty’, it is presented in a nice box, and it actually really would make a lovely gift for a close friend or loved one.


Callie is a gorgeous wand, white and gold with a gemstone button. The main body is made of premium silicone, luxuriously smooth; tapering wider to quite a triangular shape at the point of use then rounds off toward the tip. This little rise on the shaft is the bit you would hold against your clit area as that rise gets comfortably in there and ensures the clit gets maximum vibrations. The handle is a golden cap of metal which twists off to plug in the USB cable. However, despite the twist-off handle, Callie is most certainly waterproof, I did worry that some water would get in when I washed it but thankfully no, when I took the cap off the innards were safe and sound.I was completely safe to charge it up for its first use. Also worth mentioning is that it doesn’t need too long to charge up, just two hours for a good bit of play time, always a welcome point in a rechargeable toy!


Wands come in many sizes and Callie is, for me, a good size; it hasn’t got a long handle, itisn’t too burdensome or heavy, the handle in your hand will only reach half way, the other half you’ll be holding is the start of the silicone shaft, it’s not too long, but then it’s not too short you need to fiddle around getting it in place, I like the size of this.Personally, I feel it’s just right.


Watch the Callie Vibrating Wand video on You Tube

To turn on the vibes there’s the cutest button! A gem stone set in a frame of white against the gold – really nice touch, very cute. The handle is very comfortable to hold, the big button easy to cycle through the seven different vibrations and speeds. The size does not impact its power, this packs a punch and the seven choices to choose from deliver excellent heights of orgasmic bliss. I wasn’t expecting it to be as powerful as it was, but it is very strong, you get really great vibrations from this combined with the smooth silicone which is gentle against your skin, I would give this 10/10.

I’m very impressed with the whole package, it really is a very nice piece of work, loves it!

You can buy the Callie by Jopen Luxury Gemstone Vibrating Wand online here or from our adult stores nationwide.

with love 2016

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Sqweel Go – A Review by Jenna-G

First off, the packaging is really cute, like so innocently cute; simple, very subtle with nice corresponding colours to the toy. The box has a window so you can see the toy straight through the packaging which is always a good feature as you can see at first glance what the toy looks like, its size etc.


When I first saw it, I thought the Sqweel Go looked like a little pin-wheel, windmill, or water-wheel, it actually looks like a toy that you could find in a kids’ toy box! Because it looks so harmless, it’s completely unintimidating, and for those who aren’t too clued up on their toys – it’s extremely easy to use. Once you realise it’s a sex toy, you understand immediately what the toy is designed to do – it’s not rocket science – the wheel goes around and around, the little ‘spokes’ keep licking at your clit, until you cum! There are 10 silicone ‘tongues’ going around, with 3 speeds to choose from, and there are also 3 different patterns for different moods – You control these with the one and only button on the toy; you have to cycle through them to get the setting you prefer but it is easy to do.


Ok, so that’s the gist of what it’s supposed to do – but what does it actually feel like?!
Well, actually, really quite nice! Do not go in dry whatever you do or you’ll ruin it for yourself, use a good dollop of lube and get it on your clit, play about with the speeds & patterns until you get the one you like and off you go! Just hold it in place until you cum… it’s that simple! The tongues are super-soft and really do feel like little tongues, except they do not stop, or get tired – they keep on going and going!

The Sqweel Go is rechargeable and comes with its USB charging wire.


Watch the Sqweel Go in action on You Tube


All in all, I’d say it was a fun toy to use solo or with a partner, the silicone ‘tongues’ of the Sqweel do something no human tongue ever could! The price is a little high, I’d say, but it’s different to petty much every other toy I’ve seen out on the market, so it’s certainly worth a try!

You can buy the Sqweel Go online here or from our adult stores nationwide.

with love 2016

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Satisfyer Pro 2 – A Review

The Satisfyer Pro 2 has been causing a HUGE splash in the Nice ‘n’ Naughty stores with both staff and customers alike! We asked one of the staff members from our Bangor store to let us know what they thought of the toy and below is the glowing review!


At first look I really liked the packaging, it is classy and very subtle, it is not obvious it’s a sex toy as it doesn’t have any of the ‘loud’ pictures some intimate toys have! The price is very reasonable; it is a top quality toy and feels very durable.

The Satisfyer Pro 2 may seem an unusual looking toy to some folk, but to others this toy may look mighty familiar. Yes this does look quite similar to one or two other toys out on the market. However, it certainly gets the curiosity piqued with its statement of having the best technology, and being the most intense toy! The advert also stated it was great to use in water – I love playing with toys in the bath (solo) or shower (with hubby) so this was a must to try out.


First off, yes it does look and sound odd and to feel the sensation of the toy on your hand (or other body part) does not do the toy justice, you really need to get it right on your clit! The toy is designed in a way that is very easy to hold. It has a comfortable handle that sits nicely in the hand, just the right size to keep the toy in the right place. You rest the ‘head’ of the toy onto your clit and just keep it there until you cum, and that does not take long at all, this baby is fast at doing its thing! Seriously, no wiggling it about or rubbing it up and down, just keep it there and the job’s done! It sure lives up to the name ‘Satisfyer’! (sorry that was too obvious!), and it actually it is a versatile toy, solo or with company, you can hold it, he can hold it, she can hold it, whoever! – It’s so simple to get that orgasm any one can make you cum just by holding the Satisfyer Pro 2 against your clit!

There are multiple (11 IIRC) intensity levels that you can control with ease with the oval button on the back, just press it repeatedly to cycle around to the setting you feel like using. When you are in water, such as a bath or shower, the toy feels different, more intense, so try out all those settings, many pleasurable sensations are to be had!

What does it feel like?? You know, I can’t quite describe… it does not vibrate against you, there’s movement but it’s more sucking, caressing sensation, very hard to describe. It’s gentle yet intense; it really needs to be felt as it’s really quite indescribable! The orgasms I get from it don’t feel forced, like I sometimes get with a powerful and intense toy such as this. Even with other gentler, less powerful toys my orgasms can feel as though they are sometimes missing something, but this delivers the whole package, a natural, long, intense orgasm in a very small amount of time.


Obviously, this is completely waterproof, very easy to clean – the little head pops off and you can give it a good scrub. There’s no battery openings as it’s rechargeable – an excellent bonus!  Leave it charge up and you get a good amount of playtime with it – much more than you’d possibly need for a couple of orgasms anyway!😉

with love 2016

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Lingox Triple Extreme Edition Male Masturbator – A Review

The male toy market is a hard one to crack and really let’s be honest, when it comes to boys toys there’s not a whole lot of variety. Sure we have cock rings, anal toys and the good old fashioned male masturbator but attempting to find a toy that isn’t a copy of something you already own is no mean feat. Understandably trying to stand out in the smaller male market is a hard thing to do, so when Net  1on1 announced a toy that was going to shake up the male toy industry I’ll admit – I was a little dubious.

Until I got the toy.


The Lingox Triple Extreme Male Masturbator really is a toy like no other. It’s a masturbation sleeve, with a stick out tongue and an anal toy built into the end which can serve as a handle. Intrigued? I certainly was.


Bright vivid packaging catches the eye straight away

 When you first look at it, the packaging is crisp and stands out due to the triangular shape and bright colours.  I’m a sucker for packaging (as the poor hubby who’s been forced to listen to some terrible music simply because I liked the CD cover) so I was instantly impressed, if I was browsing through a toy section this is one box that would make me want to pick it up and examine the product.

I made sure and read the instructions (I honestly can’t help myself – even though it was pretty self-explanatory) and got the toy out. The unit itself is a really good size coming in at just  under 11 “. (similar in length and girth to another very popular male masturbation toy that sounds like Blesh Might) so the bigger guys won’t have to worry about it not being able to accommodate them. The main difference with the Lingox Triple Extreme Male Masturbator is the tapered end. This can serve as a handle during use or if you’re looking for something a bit different can be used as an anal toy due to the ribbed effect. It’s also the only toy on the market with a stick out tongue made from the amazing re-evolution skin material, which if you’ve not had the joy of feeling – is a brilliantly life like material that quickly absorbs warmth and enhances the realism of the toy.

All these facts are fun to talk about but the real question still hasn’t been answered – it is any good?  Because this toy boasts 3 main features I’m going to break it down and talk about each one –

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The Sleeve – I’m guessing the majority of people who buy this toy will be more interested in putting things into the toy than using the anal feature so I’m really happy to say that the re-evolution skin material that Lingox have used is fantastic! It’s very much up there with the big brand names in terms of realism and you can change the level of suction really easily. The opening to the toy is quite tight, but that is definitely not a bad thing. You do need to use a healthy amount of lube to save off on friction burns, but as with most sleeves once you’ve figured out how much lube suits your personal tastes, this wont be a massive issue.

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The Tongue – WOW!!!  The tongue feature of the toy is pretty much unlike anything else I’ve seen on the market before. It feels very realistic and as stated above – put some lube on the tongue and you can easily tease yourself (or your partner). You can even use the tongue to help apply lube to yourself. It also massively enhances the oral feeling of the Lingox and pushes it further up the list of unique male toys.


The Anal Toy – This is going to be a 50/50 for some people. The insert-able part is solid plastic so has no flexibility to it at all. If you enjoy softer toys or the jelly toys then the anal part of this toy won’t be for you. However if you are a fan of harder toys then you will love this! The toy has a spiral ridge on the end which does add some amazing sensations during play and I think because of the rigid nature of the anal toy these ridges really feel like a unique feature. Again plenty of lube required! It’s a fun way to add a partner to the play by letting them be in control of the unit so you can’t tell if they’re going to use the sleeve part or the insert-able part and any toy that you can use with a partner is always a good thing in my opinion.

Personally I loved the toy, as a sleeve it was brilliant and the tongue is a fantastic addition that really helps to set toy apart. The anal feature is a fun addition, personally I really liked it, but I can understand why for some the toy would never make it near their bum due to the lack of movement.

Lingox Triple Extreme Edition Male Masturbator is one of those toys that the longer you have it, the more you’ll find ways to adapt it to your individual play style. If you’ve always wanted to try an anal toy, but were too embarrassed this is a great option for you as it looks like a masturbation toy so adds a nice level of discretion but honestly – once you’ve used it once I can see this being a frequently used addition to any toy collection.

with love 2016






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Favourite Couples Toy? Lets Ask The Shops!

Nice ‘n’ Naughty doesn’t just have a brilliant website – we also have some brick and mortar stores you can visit! The shops are always happy to help and as they have a lot more interactions with customers on a daily basis I thought it might be fun to ask them some of their opinions and see what they think!

As you may have guessed – we’re all big fans of sex toys here, but sometimes it can be hard as a couple to find a toy for BOTH of you to enjoy playing with.

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So I thought it might be fun and interesting to ask the shops; “What are your Favourite Couples Toys in the store?”

 Below are some of the replies with the reasons from the shops themselves.

Nice ‘n’ Naughty Bangor
27 High Street, Bangor, LL57 1NP – (Follow their twitter here!)

ToyJoy Designer Edition – Hero

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Hero can be used in any way – as a traditional cock ring or a vibrator for vaginal or anal stimulation, small enough to carry around yet not too small that’s it’s too fiddly to work or keep hold of.

 ToyJoy Designer Edition – Helix

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Lots of fun for couples – he can keep control of the vibrations she receives – this can even be used out & about.

WeVibe 4 Plus


As the Helix (above), this is a fun toy for couples to use together or even apart as this uses apps to keep in touch.

Nice ‘n’ Naughty Chester
127 – 129 Brook Street, Chester, CH1 3DU (Follow their twitter HERE!)


Lelo Lyla 

You can have fun out and about as it’s a remote control toy.

ToyJoy – Wonder Wand 


Male and female wand attachments fit this very powerful toy.

 Fetish Fantasy – Vibrating Strap On


While he is being penetrated the vibrating bullet stimulates her clitoris, it’s really comfy and easy to wear. Good size toy and the bullet is pretty strong!

Electrastim – Flick Duo


Two way electro sex where you have to be TOUCHING each other! Great solo – but much more fun together!

We-vibe 4 Plus 

Bluetooth app so he can control your pleasure near or far.

Nice ‘n’ Naughty Liverpool
16 Colquitt Street, L1 4DE (Follow their twitter HERE)

Well today I sold a couple a Sqweel for her & a Fleshlight for him & suggested they could use them on & with each other. The couple were really happy with that idea!

Rocks Off Ro- Duet Remote Egg

Use at the movies, out for dinner or when you’re shopping…split up…..hit they button & wait for the squeal so you know she’s in the bean aisle.  Get it bean aisle??

Screaming O – O Yeah Vibrating cockring

A little something, something for them both.

Nice ‘n’ Naughty Southport
53 London Street, Southport PR9 OTH (Follow their twitter HERE!)

We Vibe 4+

Simply because both partners genuinely use it together and both get stimulation from it! Plus – Bluetooth!

Screaming O -Double O8 Cockring


A vibrating cock ring that they can turn round and both get stimulation!

We-Vibe Tango


A really strong rechargeable bullet to use on each other (and they can use it in the Double 08 to give the cockring more power!)

Nice ‘n’ Naughty Warrington,
Unit 5, Crown Parade Warrington, WA1 2AE (Follow their twitter HERE)

 Lelo –  Hugo Prostate Massager 

The vibration on it is absolutely amazing, really powerful. It comes with a remote so the partner can be in control, and not only can it be used for prostate use, it can be used vaginally.

Hero cock ring by Designer ToyJoy

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 It’s not only a cock ring but a couple’s massager, as it can be held in place for a few different positions and includes diagrams inside the front of the box. A good price for rechargeable waterproof toy, too.

 Helix vibrating egg by Designer ToyJoy

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This toy is not only a traditional egg but the “remote” vibrates as well. It’s really quiet, you can change the batteries for on-the-go use and is ideal to be used by lesbian couples as its sort of 3 toys in a one;  an egg, a vibrator, and both. Can be used both at the same time with a little bit of control fitted in. And of course the vibration can be turned off on the remote for more discreet use outside.

Nice ‘n’ Naughty Wigan
Unit 7 Queen Street,Wigan, WN3 4DY (Follow their twitter HERE)

 WeVibe Passionate Play Kit



It’s so totally worth it to get the kit over just the We-Vibe as the We-Vibe brings people closer together with the illusion you’re not using a toy, and also you get the tango in the kit for like£20 and it’s an amazing bullet!!

Eclipse Cock Ring by Luz


It’s a lovely cock ring with good power, a nice lightshow haha and it comes in a really sturdy nice box meaning its ideal for a gift

 Wireless vibrating eggs (any brand)
Ideal for couples who want to experience a little role-play without using bondage (someone in control, someone under control) or who want to play outdoors. It’s exciting!

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As you can tell above, some of these items are available on our website if you don’t like to  go outside (i’m very much that type of person) or alternatively pop into your local Nice ‘n’ Naughty and see what they suggest!

As always – we would love to hear your thoughts – do you agree with the list? Do you disagree or do you have a favourite toy with your partner? Let us know in the comments section below!


with love 2016

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My Life Part 2

The Nice ‘n’ Naughty blog has the great honour of having another post from Debbie; our guest blogger. Debbie will be giving us an insight into her life as a cross dresser in her special blog posts.

In her second  post Debbie discusses language and what she feels is in a name.

Please read, enjoy and comment.


MY LIFE  – Part 2


So, what’s in a name, and what does it mean anyway?

Transgendered, cross-dresser, transvestite (and the derivatives TV and trannie), trans-sexual, and many more are all used, let it be said, more-or-less without distinction by people, often outside of this very broad community, in an attempt to pigeon hole us into manageable concepts. Now there’s nothing wrong with that, and we all do it in various ways. But it leads to confusion, and a confusion not helped by the fact even within the community we are not certain about these terms ourselves. In what is already a grey gender area there are overlapping uncertainties of meaning. My own thoughts, based on personal sentiment and experience may, or may not, help the situation. First of all a clear distinction must be made between those of us who, by choice (if indeed that is always the case recognising that there can be powerful psychological imperatives) elect to live all or part of our lives as women, and those who find themselves physiologically between the sexes, sharing attributes of both. The latter form, in many respects, a different category on which I cannot make informed comment. Of the former groups there, as with all communities, a wide range of behaviours, thoughts and living styles. It is invidious to categorise, but such is the currency of the vocabulary that some attempt has to be made to define them. What follows are merely my own reflections, so feel free to challenge them as you will.

Transgendered can be taken to include those who are physiologically identified with both sexes in one form or another.  Whether they choose to live as either, or indeed neither, is not simply a matter of ‘cross-dressing’ or anything of that nature. There are however those who, whilst exhibiting no physiological attributes of the other sex have a strong and genuine emotional prompting to assume that role and in doing so embark on a programme of gender re-assignment. This can be either by means of surgery or hormone treatment, often accompanied by counselling and advice. These are major changes in the way that life is conducted and those who embark upon in should be applauded for their courage and determination to set right what they see as a wrong.

So some extent the term trans-sexual invades this above territory but a clear distinction between the two cannot be made. To many the terms are synonymous, and it might best to keep them so.

This brings us to the term transvestite. Frankly I think it a ghastly term; it has a harshness of pronunciation that makes it sound cold and even hostile. In many ways in marked contrast to what it actually means to those who see themselves as such. It smacks also of the intolerance of earlier decades and is almost pejorative in its use. Its derivative, ‘trannie’, is an interesting term. Some do not like it to be used, regarding it as an insult. Some do not. I fall into the latter category. It has a ‘softness’ to its enunciation that overcomes the problem of ‘transvestite’, and if some see it as a term of abuse I suggest that, as the black community did with the ‘N’ word, we reclaim it for ourselves. But, given all that, what does it mean? It is one of the most widely-used terms to embrace the community but it differs from trans-sexual and transgendered in that is not necessarily accompanied by any attempt to change the physical character of the body in any permanent form. Surgery and hormone treatment do not, in this definitional sense, apply to this category. These are men and women who choose to dress either permanently or occasionally, in private or in public, in the clothes of the other sex. Cross-dressing is a very similar term, again barely distinguishable from it.

‘Drag’ is an altogether different matter. I suggest it has less to do with gender issues, in the sense I describe them above, than with theatre. There is of course nothing wrong with that but, and rather sadly, for many people outside of the community this is the idea they have of what we do. Nothing could be further from the truth! In many cases we seek not to display ourselves in such dramatic terms but to merge quietly into the general mass of the population, passing as members of the opposite sex. There are of course some cross-dressers, transvestites, call them what you will, who do seek to draw attention to themselves. So again the distinction is not altogether clear.

This is not the arena in which to discuss motivation: that goes far beyond my expertise, and I can only speculate on the basis of personal experience.  Some of my thoughts have been related in the earlier contribution and what motivates me is the great sense of calm satisfaction in recognising who I truly am as Debs. I live the life of a woman and do so without reservation or regret and indeed with a degree of genuine pride in what I do. Assuredly I have not gone along the pathway of surgery or hormone treatment but that is partly an ‘age’ issue and if I were much younger (all this has come to me late in life) the options might be more appealing. I do not exhibit myself in a spectacular fashion, although I do like to be fashionable, and fall into that group who are for the most part happy to merge, unquestioned, into the population at large; content to shop, travel, lunch out etc. I am however not blind to the fact that upon closer inspection I am not, shall we say, all that I appear to be Happily this has never caused me any difficulties, indeed quite the opposite, and people have been politely curious about me, almost always courteous and sometimes pleasantly intrigued. For me it has been a very positive reaction and one that has given me some genuine hope in human nature, even the world of officialdom (passport and security control at airports, the police and NHS) have been heart-warmingly helpful and never obstructive,. I am however only too well aware that this is not everyone’s experience.  I guess what I am trying to say here is that I have been very lucky indeed and, equally importantly, do not take my good fortune for granted.

Love Debs xxx

with love 2016

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Sparkle Weekend


If you are a loose end this weekend and looking for something fun to do it’s the annual Sparkle weekend in Manchester!

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For those who don’t know Sparkle is the national transgender celebration is the world’s largest transgender event. For the last 14 years they’ve been celebrating with the trans community in July in Manchester, UK and this year they are following the success of the Sparkle Fringe events and expanding the celebration to last a full week!

Over the Sparkle Weekend people can celebrate with music and events, if that’s not enough there are talks and workshops that are all FREE to attend so even if you’re counting the pennies, you can happily attend!

As the amazing Sparkle website says – (the link is HERE if you want a mooch)

The Sparkle mission is to promote a positive public image of the trans community within society. The aim is to build confidence and resilience, to develop understanding and cohesion in society and to challenge stigma.

The Sparkle event attracts trans people and trans allies locally and from around the world. We showcase trans and trans ally entertainment during the weekend, and we host free educational talks on trans related issues.

The celebration takes place in Sackville Gardens, in the Gay Village in Manchester, UK. This choice of venue provides a safe place for trans people. The event has the support of Manchester Council and local businesses.

If you’re not able to get on the website, here’s a breakdown of the events that are happening over the weekend – with this much variety there’s definitely something for everyone!


7th July

6:00 pm – 10:00 pm


7:30 pm – 9:00 pm


8:00 pm – Late


8:00 pm – Late

THE MAPLE CLOUDS Bandit, Mugger & Thief

9:00 pm – Late


9:30 pm – Close


All Day –



8Th July 2016

6:00 pm – 8:00 pm

SPECIAL CHINESE MEAL Peking Court Restaurant

7:30 pm – Close

THE FREE SPIRITS Bandit, Mugger & Thief

9:15 pm – Close


9:30 pm – Close


10:00 pm – Late – very late


10:00 pm – Late



9th July 2016

10:00 am – Onwards

SATURDAY BRUNCH Bandit, Mugger & Thief

11:00 am – Late


11:00 am – Close


12:00 pm – 5:00 pm


4:00 pm – 6:00 pm

MEDIAL PANEL 3rd Floor Conference Room

5:00 pm – 10:00 pm


7:00 pm – 10:00 pm


9:00 pm – Late


9:00 pm – Later, much later


9:30 pm – Close


10:00 pm – 3:00 am


10:00 pm – Late


10:00 pm – 3:00 am

GIRLS ON FILM – 80’S NIGHTCLUB The Deaf Institute

10:00 pm –


10:00 pm – Late

HOUSE SHOW TEAM Village Showbar


10th July 2016

10:30 am – 12:00 pm

CHURCH SERVICE Manchester Cathedral

11:00 am – Late


11:00 am – Close


12:00 pm – 10:00 pm


12:00 pm – 5:00 pm


12:00 pm – 2:00 pm

JAKE GRAF’S TRANS CINEMA 2nd Floor Group Workroom

1:00 pm – 4:00 pm


3:00 pm – 5:00 pm


4:00 pm – 6:00 pm


4:30 pm – 6:00 pm


5:00 pm – Late

DRAG KINGS Churchills

6:00 pm – Late


6:30 pm – 8:00 pm


7:00 pm – Close


7:00 pm – 8:00 pm


8:00 pm – As late as possible


10:00 pm – Close


10:00 pm – Late

HOUSE SHOW TEAM Village Showbar

11th July 2016

7:00 pm – 9:00 pm

SING AND SPARKLE 3rd Floor Therapy room

7:30 pm –

MINGE ON THE FRINGE Bandit, Mugger & Thief

8:00 pm – Close


10:00 pm – Late



12th July 2016

9:00 pm – Late


9:00 pm – Late



13th July 2016

8:00 pm – Late




As a company we love to promote events that help communities and that’s why we’ve created a promo code to ensure that if you do want to go, you’re able to get your outfit with an extra 10% discount!  Just use the promo code – SPARKLE on the website

We’re on Twitter and Facebook as well – so if you go this weekend, make sure to facebook and tweet us with your pics! We’d love to know your weekend goes!!

with love 2016

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The Sex Factor – Episode 3 Recap


First things first – massive apologies for the HUGE delay in getting these recaps out! It’s been a bit of a combination of lack of time to sit and actually write them out and something happens in episode 4/5 that left me feeling really uncomfortable about the show and whether I wanted to continue to recap the show or not… suffice to say – I’m going to go ahead with the recaps but I will talk about why I debated giving up the recaps when the time comes. (I bet you are all DYING to know what happens in episode 5 now!!)  So without further ado and only 3 weeks late – here’s the recap to episode 3!

The show opens with it’s usual “cumming up” and shows a few snippets from the upcoming episode. It looks like it’s going to be a bit more of a hard core episode than the previous 2 have been which considering it’s a porn show was a long time cumming. (Sorry couldn’t help myself). After showing pretty much the whole episode in 2 second clips we join the contestants and the judges all chilling in the Sex Factor House. Tori Black informs the contestants that this episode is called – Back To Basics. The premise is simple. They will be teaming up the contestants in two’s to perform a scene. The judges will watch and score and the person with the highest score wins. Seems simple enough, but then again this is reality TV and nothing is ever as straight forward as it seems! The judges also drop a bombshell and announce that both Sydney and Barry have left the competition. They give no indication as to why they have left but do treat us to a hand graphic of them with big red X’s on their faces – Kieran then announces that this week will be a double elimination. That’s what you need on a porn set – pressure! (Side note – it looks like the contestants have had makeovers, which I am so unhappy about! I LOVE make-overs, you should see me when Biggest Loser does make over week. I literally sob for an hour and a half while trying to talk myself out of cutting a fringe in my hair like Jessie J.)

Hero & Ali

Hero and Allie

Our first two contestants to shoot their scene are Hero and Ali, from the second their segment starts you know it’s going to be a good one. Both look like a perfect match for each other, it’s being shot outside by the pool and Remmy La Croix is going to help direct the scene for them. Ali has changed the pink from her hair to darker browns and it’s looking really nice on her. The scene they shoot looks really good, lots of different positions and Remmy gives some fantastic advice to both contestants to help make sure that they are really working the time they have and pushing their scene. It’s all going well until Hero can’t quite finish and give them the money shot they needed. Still, the contestants talked highly of each other, both seemed to have a great time and even Remmy was happy with how it went. All in all – good job guys! The whole thing goes without a hitch – well minus the important shot.

Sunny & Blair


O.M.G! SUNNY WHAT DID YOU DO TO YOUR HAIR?! Not going to lie – was LIVID when they showed Sunny minus the long hair, which considering he is my favourite boy to win put me in a foul mood. The rest of his scene didn’t really help matters either.  The segment with Sunny and Blair (my two winners!) starts with Kieran staring at Sunny and informing him “You have to get a hard on for Blair. If you don’t…..” So instantly the pressure is on for Sunny. We cut to the judges who will be watching the scene – my Queen – Asa Akira and the doubter Kieran Lee. Asa says that she has high hopes for the scene while Kieran really isn’t sold and says as much to the camera. Blair walks out looks AMAZING in a white body stocking that shows her figure off and really pop’s, Kieran and Asa spend a bit of time commenting on how nice her vagina looks and other things… (There are things that I never think I’ll write in my life. This episode really helped me to tick about 10 of them off the bucket list!) We get started on the scene with a close up Sunny talking about how he’s going in with the warrior’s spirit and how he wants to give them a good scene. Now here’s the thing, even as a 1st grade homosexual I can see that Blair is hot, she’s well up for everything in this competition and really she oooooooooozes sex appeal. I’m beginning to think that there’s a lot more going on off camera than we are lead to believe because even down to the music – there’s a weird vibe to the show (that will continue to episode 4 and 5.) especially when it comes to how the boys are performing. The scene goes off, Asa gives Blair some advice and Blair talks to the camera about how they had decided to go full dom/sub with their scene and she was going to completely submit to him. Sadly Sunny just couldn’t rise to the occasion. It’s all really uncomfortable and isn’t helped by Kieran being (in my opinion) a bit of an arse to Sunny. Saying things like “Sunny mate – you’ve gone down quicker than the titanic and it’s a bit pathetic mate” really isn’t going to do anyone any favours. Kieran continues to be a dick Sunny, which in turn puts more pressure onto Sunny. (I’m totally putting it down to his hair cut). Kieran gives Sunny a quick walk through on the best way to dom, Blair gets very into it and…. Sunny still can’t get it up. Short version – Sunny can talk the talk, he just over talked the idea and he couldn’t perform.


The Colonel & Kayla

Lexi Bell is the judge watching this scene and she’s super excited. She’s giving them both advice, the Colonel is stood there rotating two snooker balls in his hand and Kayla says “I couldn’t really focus on the Colonel. He has some really nice balls in his hand.” Yup. The scene starts and they really do get down to business quite quickly. I’m not big on picking up on chemistry, but these two did have some quite obvious sexual chemistry with each other. (I’m just going to say it though – watching the Colonel having sex really does make me a little….uncomfortable. I don’t know why, but it is always just a bit cringe worthy.) They get the pop shot (+10 point to the Colonel though, only boy so far who has!) but they do talk about how quick the scene was and how fast the colonel finished.


Buddy &  Kaelin  

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So this is the first time these two have ever had sex with each other on or off screen.  Remmy and Lexi are the two judges who are overseeing this one and from the second the scene starts, things are a bit weird. Buddy comments that Kaelin was shaking like a life while they kissed and after a few seconds the girls stop the scene to talk to Kaelin. They ask Kaelin if she’s ok to continue with the scene and she says yes, but Buddy’s VT tells a bit of a different story and he informs us that it’s really killed it for him. What follows is a bit of a car crash. Kaelin’s worrying, Buddy’s worrying – nothing rises to the occasion. Both start profoundly apologising to each other, but really the damage is done and the scene is pretty much dead in the water. They call quits on the scene and both Buddy and Kaelin feel terrible. (I actually felt really bad for Buddy cause he did take a lot of the blame himself and did his very best to make sure that Kaelin knew it wasn’t her.)

The Colonel


Donnie & Adrian


So Adrian is now rocking some orange hair. That’s pretty much the only positive about the next 5 minutes of footage. Tori Black is their judge and even she comments in the opening VT that the whole thing was a car crash. I was actually able to feel the tension in my living room watching this bit and it made me so uncomfortable I had to pause the show and make a cuppa. There’s zero communication between the two, zero chemistry and zero hard on. Yup – another boy fails to deliver the goods. There are no pointing fingers here, because it really does take two to tango, but week 1 – Adrian couldn’t fake an orgasm, fully clothed. Week 2 – Adrian was picked out as being uncomfortable in the photo-shoot (and was a shoe in to go until Veronica Vain walked) now week 3 – she’s still uncomfortable and it’s passed to Donnie. Although to be honest Tori did sort of try to say that Donnie did well with the circumstances at first, then as soon as she talks to Adrian she pretty much turns the tables and says that it’s all Donnie’s fault. Bit of a weird u-turn, but there you go.

Jonny & Dani

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Well if you thought the last scene was weird – you’re in for a treat!! I’m not a huge fan of Dani, she reminds me of that crazy kid in class that would poke frogs with a stick. (yes I know – shady queen – you just remember this line when I get to the end of the recap!)

As with the last scene there’s a weird atmosphere here. Dani is clearly very excited at the idea of getting to do a scene with Jonny. She talks about his rather large member and how excited she is to see it. Kieran is on set again to help “motivate” the actors. He does the same line about how best to go down on a woman and make sure that you’re still getting the camera angle. Dani giggles like a crazy lady the whole time he’s talking. We cut to a VT of Jonny saying that he had to repeatedly ask her to STOP putting her tongue down his throat; you can see when he’s kissing her that she looks like she’s trying to tickle his lungs. (Considering the importance placed on kissing in week 1 you’d think Dani should know that it’s something to make sure and get right.) Sadly Jonny can’t rise to the occasion – (running theme in this week’s episode) and Kieran suggests they try it in soft-core format so it just looks like they’re having sex. Dani isn’t overly impressed with this as she thought that all you had to do was touch a man on the leg and he’d be ready for sex. Kieran tries to talk Jonny round, but still not happening. As the pairing comes (I know, bad pun) to a close Jonny quite bluntly tells the audience that if he’d had a different scene partner he would have been able to get hard. OUCH!

And that’s a wrap with the scene’s – really underwhelming, I can imagine the frustration of the female talent, but it’s nice to show that it’s not as simple for the boys to just turn up, get hard and play.

The judges sit around on high directors chairs, looking all cool and discuss the scene’s that they’ve seen. Kieran mentions the Blair kissing thing and clearly seems to lead to the fact that she wasn’t very good but all the other judges just say how hot she is. They carry on talking about the rest of the scenes – Adrian and Donnie get a special mention as Tori Blacks labels their scene the most uncomfortable experience she’s ever had.  If Adrian doesn’t go this week I’ll be amazed!


No voting from the fellow contestants this week. Instead after a dramatic line up, the contestants are told that if their names are called forward they got 6 lowest scores.; the names called out are –

Donnie – Kieran isn’t sure how he managed to get it so wrong this week.

Adrian – Asa informs her that the judges need to feel something from her and she needs to try and be a bit more vocal in her performance. (Sorry this is a total understatement)

Sunny – The judges felt his ego got in the way of his performance.

Dani – Lexi tells her that she crossed the line by repeatedly ignoring her scene partner’s wishes and making him uncomfortable. (Really glad this got brought up and not glossed over)

Jonny – He’s blatantly there because of Danie – there’s NO negativity given to him, just praise.

Kaelin – Her discomfort is becoming painful obvious and it’s even making the judges uncomfortable.

Tori Black informs Sunny and Dani that they are going home. I am GUTTED!! Absolutely LOVED Sunny (I even follow him on twitter) so I’m devastated that he’s been kicked so early, don’t get me wrong I fully understand it but BOOOO L Dani….. she’s not happy. She even asks the judges “Are you serious?” followed by the best crazy eye I have ever seen on my 32 years on this earth. What follows this elimination can only be described as the infamous Tyra Banks meltdown on steroids.

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The judges give the two eliminated contestants a quick breakdown as to why they are going, Sunny’s is his inability to get an erection and Tori really drives home to Dani that crossing a person’s boundaries on set is just unacceptable. (her crazy eye’s get crazier here). The contestants are asked if they have anything to say and Dani instantly says that she doesn’t remember crossing any boundaries. Tori isn’t giving this up and outright says that if she can’t remember crossing any – that’s the problem. She wasn’t listening to her partner. Sunny just says thank you. (Love you Sunny!!) The two eliminated contests leave…… and we cut to Crazy Town. Main resident – Dani Darko.

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Dani is in a bathroom, having a very loud, very crazy lady breakdown. Lots of “I MADE THAT SHIT” *banging on chest* “ME!”” *banging on chest” Blair is clearly on the crazy lady patrol and is doing her best to calm down the hot mess in the bathroom while Dani hisses about how lucky everyone was to see her lady bits. (her hair is covering her eyes, but I know they’re crazy right now) Blair tells Dani that she really respects her as a person and that of course they were lucky to get to have sex with her – which unleashes CRAZYLADY LEVEL2!! This involves using the voice from the Exorcist while jumping on the spot hissing/screaming/crying “they didn’t though – I HAD TO FAKE IT. I HAD TO FAKE IT! I HAD TO FAKE IT!!”  At this point Blair is clearly thinking that she drew the short straw and should have told Adrian to come here (although I think Dani might have eaten her). Sadly Dani’s mind ha snapped at this point and she just keeps looking at Blair (and now Kaelin) and mutters/hisses/crazy-laughs/sobs at them. Having hit our yearly crazy levels we cut to sunny who’s just sad and leaves the house.  (check out the link to the video below for this melt down in all 2:30 of it’s glory)


End. Of. Episode.

WOW!! Weird episode – I honestly thought Kiaran would be nicer to the male contestants, but I really thought he was a bit of a dick to them. Adrian has survived another week (HOW?????) and my favourite male went home – farewell Sunny! I’m not going to mention the crazy melt down again – but I am going to watch it about 100 times on youtube, show it to my husband and inform him that if he doesn’t buy me tickets to see Cher this will be how I react.

What did you all think? Let me know in the comments below!

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